Relationships are made in heaven. As cliché as it may sound, this line holds true. On Coffee with Karan, Arjun Kapoor admitted on being in a relationship and while he may not have taken the name of Malaika Arora, read between the lines and the numerous public appearances show that this hot couple in B Town own it. I feel it’s very disrespectful for a couple not to acknowledge each other’s presence in their lives and acceptance shows the deserved respect.
The odds are often stacked against a woman being older in age to her man and the way society is wired, we nurture prejudices often lingering unfairly with terms such as cougar. It’s not only sexist, patriarchal and hypocritical but also demeaning. This entire moral argument thrown and oft-repeated, log kya kahenge cast aspersion on the woman’s character, what with this boring man-eater argument is thrown at her. The irony is that men get away with the sugar daddy terminology when we date younger girls and often used to glamorize men. Why this double standard? The truth is that it permeates gender inequality and this unequal balance where discrimination reign supreme.
As humans, we need to be ashamed about ourselves in casting value judgment on the relationship between a man and a woman hovering on age gap. Big deal! The self-appointed moral guardians make a hue-and-cry about a relationship and so what there is a huge age different and since when, it has become a sudden moral issue for society at large or media to discuss someone’s personal life. Who defined morality? There is no such thing as a universal moral value, being a relative term and what is moral for one person may not necessarily be for the other.
Age factor is not as much important as having the courage to follow one’s heart rather than compromising with money or society’s whims and fancies, bending down to obsolete wishes. A firm belief in leading one’s life and being unwary about rules, my life is after all mine and not that of my parents, extended family or even friends who might advise in chucking out a relationship. The recent wedding of, Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jones is a tale of major relationship goals where two individuals have decided to follow their heart rather than listening to the garbage thrown by society. Two mature individuals are entire capable of making a decision regarding their lives and they are not stupid that some self-appointed guardians will decide for them.
Battling family pressure can get complicated. I agree. It’s no reason for a couple to break away and clearly Arjun and Malaika have shown the way and followed their hearts rather than bending down to whims and fancies. Time has come for us as a society to alter our mentality when it comes to age differences in relationships, divorce, remarriage or live-in relationships. Honestly speaking, I wouldn’t have any issue dating or be with someone is divorced and being elder, younger to me as long as there is consent. People who tread this line, are first and foremost secure human beings and love is not about prejudices but what we want as human beings.
We are a society constantly in-flux and witnessing changes in social mores, the young people are becoming more acceptant about changing equations and leaving behind the over-romanticized notions or conservative mindset about how an ideal partner should be like. It’s all about experimenting, removing labels on relations and a belief in discarding the load on what a perfect person should be like. Pursue relationships goals based on equality, mutual respect and connecting on a deeper level. There are no rights or wrongs in depicting a partner with rules. The fear of a conservative society in losing its hold entails that new age relationships, albeit being age gaps are met with stiff resistance. Basically, it’s a fear instilled in the mind of people. It’s heart warming to see celebs we look up to take the plunge without caring the least about people.