I am an ignorant man. No! I swear! I ain’t kidding. It’s shameful. I am sharing my thoughts on a subject which I don’t know the A to Z of. Period! Naari Shakti. I am sure there are many men like me who never made an effort to read about period, women go through in the cycle of menstruation. I admit that before writing this post for Write Tribe I didn’t even read about it for one reason: I had only one hour to submit before the prompt ends.
I am not writing it to bag goodies or to boost my traffic. The reason that I am doing it is because I want to be part of the attitudinal change in our attitudes towards women. Given that I am a big zero when it comes to knowing about period that women go through, I am aware that as a society we nurture prejudices against women. You know why? Hey! it’s a dirty thing and women shouldn’t be allowed to be part of prayers in our Hindu society for menstruation will pollute rituals. I shudder when I hear such stupidity. I mean like how. We are such unnatural beings. Yes! We are. Why do we resist or look down upon something natural in a human being? I am saying human being and not women. In that way, male ejaculation would be deemed the most unnatural process and we guys shouldn’t go to work if we feel a liquid inside us or simply chose to walk way from ritual.
Feeling gross at my choice of words? Offended? Well! well! The aim is to offend because something natural in our bodies is being discarded and we choose to humiliate a woman for going through a menstrual cycle. I have a friend who shared with me how she was sitting in a prayer at home and she was told to throw away the flowers for the Durga Puja since something untoward might happen on account of her period. It was only then her Baba stepped in and said that according to Hindu belief, Durga is a form of Shakti and represent womanhood who also go through this cycle. Does this mean that one should take her away from the temple?
I mean, it deserves respect for a man who is also a product of patriarchy like all of us, made the effort and stood up not only for her daughter but righteousness. I was moved reading this post. There are, I am sure, many men like him who doesn’t nurture prejudice against a woman going through menstruation. I strongly feel that it is us who have a dirty mind and making a sin by nurturing such prejudices on a natural cycle in the life of a woman. Does this mean that we don’t treasure our daughters? A child is born when a man and women procreate? Giving birth is something very sacred and a child born out of love is the result of our own actions as human beings. More power to my friend’s Baba and urge you all to pray for him since he is going through failing health. Read the post here.
To be bluntly honest, if a parent-man or women-nurture such thought against menstruation, it makes sense to doubt their love for the child that they brought on earth. Isn’t it disrespectful for a brother or sister to nurture prejudice against their own on account of society’s definition of menstruation as dirty? I think that it reflects on us as human beings. As a society, let’s question such rules that doesn’t only make us dumb as the by-product of births but nurturing prejudices against women which is humiliating. We don’t realize that we are showing a lack of respect for ourselves but also our mothers and sisters.
There are many women who feel a certain lack of comfort speaking or thinking about something which is an inherent part of their bodies. Do we blame them or this misogynist society who has instilled such misplace doubt or fear in their heads? I feel that such things should change which we are part of as men and women? After all, what is society? It is people like you or me who make society. With all respect to my elders, it’s my strong belief that as humans we are not flawless and why blindly trust the words of men and women who falter? Sorry, I refuse to toe the line. Just because it’s my Dad doesn’t mean that he was 100 per cent right! Let’s be the change. Why are we so scared of society and of humans like us, who stumble and fail?
Believe in Naari Shakti. Menstruation is a cycle in the life of a woman. I confess that I am an ignorant man who shied away from learning about menstruation not because I have prejudice because I felt it’s something personal about women. It’s such a flawed judgment. Now, you see how I am treading on faulty lines? Would you trust my words about what makes society pure even if I am a man?
This post, Naari and #PeriodPride is written as part of Write Tribe initiative for a good cause. Period Pride is an event being conducted in Hyderabad for adolescent girls hailing from underprivileged background, steered under the leadership of Ms Suman Rangabhashyam of FWB (FTAPCCI women in Business) who teamed up with Naari. Naari is a product that aims to spread awareness on menstrual hygiene among women. Click on Write Tribe to inform and educate yourself.
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